While I operate under the assumption that one does not become, for example, bisexual but one is inherently bisexual from the start, I also operate under the assumption that a spiritual experience can shatter our known societal limitations on our own minds. It is possible for someone to discover themselves beyond and outside of the hetero-normative binary views of gender, sexuality, and relationships that society has placed on all of us in in the context of a spiritual awakening.
Often, a spiritual experience can be an awakening of a certain type of energy and often in terms of sexuality, it's the kundalini or life force energy. One who experiences this type of awakening may no longer have the same heteronormative views they had before the experience and may find themselves sexually and romantically attracted to all genders. The previous “filters” that once limited normal awareness are now “awake” to different ways of being in the world. No longer does the individual believe that sexual or romantic attraction ought to be limited in the same ways society limits them.
Additionally, there can be an awakening to the idea that each person, no matter their gender, holds both feminine and masculine qualities and traits. This has been studied for many years throughout Jungian psychology. The psyche contains both the feminine and the masculine and can be seen as inherently androgynous although, generally speaking, a personality naturally takes on the gender role one is born into. Each male has female aspects and each female has male aspects. This can be incredibly confusing when one is awakening to the idea that they no longer fit into the stereotypical gender roles society has placed on them. It can also be confusing when one is exploring their sexuality and they feel themselves taking on roles of another gender.
It’s important to remember that gender identity, gender expression, biological sex, and sexual orientation are all independent of one another. These affect each other but they do not determine each other. It’s easy to get caught up in stereotyping genders and it’s helpful to view gender as complimentary instead of opposites, they complete each other. This way, you can be whoever and whatever you want at any given time. In what ways have your feminine and masculine qualities been repressed?
How have your experiences lead you to discovering yourself outside and beyond hetero-normative binary views of gender and sexuality? In psychotherapy, we can explore ways in which you can awaken to new ways of being in the world you find yourself in.